5 Essential Oils For Hair

I LOVE LOVE LOVE essential oils (especially Young Living brand). I’m still a little bit new to using them, but they are currently a part of my daily life. The first essential oil I tried was Lavender from the brand Calia. It started by putting it in my baths for relaxation. Now I use essential oils daily! So below is a list of my favorite essential oils for hair! šŸ™‚

#1. Lavender: this oil is great for any hair type, and it promotes healthy hair growth. I also LOVE the smell of this one!

#2. Tea Tree: this oil fights off bacteria than may cause hair loss. This oil moisturizes the scalp and prevents dry, itchy scalps.

#3. Peppermint: this oil increases blood flow, which encourages hair growth! It works for dry or oily scalps. It’s also phenomenal because it clears out the pores on the scalp. (when using Peppermint essential oil, please keep in mind that it is a “hot” oil, so using it undiluted may cause burning. I recommend using it with a carrier oil, such as coconut, jojoba, or almond oil)

#4. Cedarwood: this oil reminds me a lot of Lavender with it’s relaxing properties. It has also been known to simulate the scalp and promote hair growth.

#5. Lemon: this oil helps prevent dry scalps. It works great for oily hair as well. (It is not recommended to be in direct sunlight with lemon oil or other citrus oils on your body for 12 hours because it can cause sun sensitivity)

Boyfriend Does My Makeup

So you always see couples doing cute things, and I got the “brilliant” idea to have Isaac do my makeup. He was a little indecisive at first, but I’m sure he thought it was 10x better than letting me do his makeup!

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So here’s the embarrassing proof of our super fun little adventure.

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And after staring at my black unibrow created with eyeliner, blush made of pink lip gloss, and my nifty goatee, I can’t help but smile.

Ā Isaac is basically my best friend. Someday I’m going to look back at these awful pictures and know how blessed I am. I’m blessed that I have someone to not only do my makeup, but I know that I have someone in my life who always wants to see me smile.

We may be that annoying couple, and I know that some people who say this may call Isaac “whipped”, but he’s not. He loves me, and he wants to see me smile. And maybe these pictures aren’t embarrassing after all. Maybe they’re beautiful, not because of the masterpiece that is Isaac’s fab makeup job, but because I was totally blessed with a guy who wants to make me smile, and I am eternally grateful for that.1884ed7f4d0255c9ad2a5868c3c22714

The Stupid Stuff Mamas Hear

Motherhood is a struggle. As I’ve mentioned in previous blogs, I still feel like the reason being a mom is so hard is because of other moms. I think hearing so much smack from other people has made me so much stronger. Nobody knows my little boy the way I do, and nobody could love him how I do. All mommas love their babies and really want what’s best for them. So I’ve included a list of someĀ things mommies do not want to hear.

#1.”Ā You’re a bad mom if you (insert circumcise your child, practice CIO, (don’t) vaccinate your child, give your child Tylenol, formula feed, let your child watch TV, etc)”. This list is far too long. The mommies who choose to circumcise their sons, practice CIO, and vaccinate their child are doing their best too. No mother should feel judged when they are doing what they think is BEST for their little one.

#2. “Why is your child crying?” I know people are curious or helpful, but this really seems to annoy me (maybe I’m the only one). Sometimes babies cry, and there’s nothing you can do about it. I know my son has had crying fits. All I do is try to cuddle him and make him feel better, but asking me why he’s crying, as if it’s somehow my fault, is not going to fix anyone’s problems.

#3. “Stop pinching him/her.” This quote is SO popular, and it’s annoyed me ever since I heard it. Why has physically harming a child on purpose become a joke. No, I’m not pinching my baby.

#4. “Has your child (insert rolled, sat up, crawled yet) because my son was crawling at five months?” I think this one just shows how self conscious the other parent must be of their own child. It’s not a competition. Babies are all different, and they still have to work at their own pace.

#5. “Wow, you let your child eat that?” As a matter of fact, I did let my child eat THAT. I’m his mom, so I watch what he intakes. If I want to every now and then let my child have a cookie, then ya know what…then my child gets a cookie.

Although this may be impossible, everyone needs to learn how to stand by each other. Support, encourage, and inform parents, don’t criticize them.

If you feel like a mom is doing something that you think is improper or unsafe, it is important to explain why, so they can correct their behavior, but please do so in a respectful manner.

And remember, we’re all just trying our hardest.

 

Anxiety

From the time I was young, I always wanted to know every detail about everything. Maybe it was simply just anxiety that I felt the need to be prepared for everything, and I was terrified of makingĀ a fool out of myself, which has happened way more times than I’d like to admit.

I remember all those school presentations where whenever a teacher asked me a question, I’d slur my words together. I remember going to Haiti and Mexico, scared to talk to people because I knew I’d butcher their native tongue, and they’d think I was dumb. I remember the interview for my first job (which I knew I’d get because my mom worked there), but I still ended up in my mom’s office beforehand crying.

And now it’s to the point where I take charge of every situation because I’d rather be bossy than admit how nervous I really was. I’d rather discourageĀ other people’s way of doing things than admit that I, myself was quite discouraged.

So yes, I am bossy. I am a control freak. I’d rather tell people what to do or simply just do it myself. I over-analyze every situation, and I have a long list of issues.

Maybe that’s an area that I should work on. Okay, it’s DEFINITELY an area that I should work on, but I’m proud of pushing myself. I’m proud that I do so much research that people come to me with questions about weird stuff like that.

I’m proud that I try to be the best mom I can be and do everything right, even if sometimes I only try to be so perfect because I know I’ll be judged if I don’t.

 

 

Why Doesn’t Money Grow on Trees?

Why the heck doesn’t money grow on trees? You literally cannot survive without money. It makes it even better that I have none. You know what I do have though? I have a baby, a baby who needs blankets, clothes, diapers, wipes, and so much more. I have things I NEED to buy for my son.

The struggle is that I can’t leave Jayce, not yet. The struggle is that he won’t take a bottle, and even if he did, I don’t think I could do it. The struggle is that I’m scared, scared to leave.

I HATE having to ask my parents to pay for Jayce. I conceived Jayce. He’s my responsibility.

Isaac can’t afford to help a lot either. He works at Subway, so Ā it’s not easy when you make $9/hr. to support a baby.

I HATE that money makes the world go round.

 

Ergo Baby Carrier

So in a previous blog I talked about about how much I wanted an Ergo Baby Carrier (see post “Dreamin’ of Ergo Baby Carrier“).Ā 1786

Well, I’ve been checking Facebook groups and Craigslist, and I found one for $85 brand new! At ergobaby.com I found it for $120 (but you’d still need to pay tax and shipping & handling.

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So, I got it! It’s amazing how God answers your prayers, and gave my broke self an amazing deal. I’m pretty sure that the excitement is clearly represented in my face, and I’m officially a baby-wearing enthusiast.

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Initially, Jayce wasn’t too sure about it, but he’s now coming around to it. I love being able to get dishes done, laundry done, and hold my sweet boy. Does it get better that that? I’ll answer it for you šŸ˜‰ No! It does not get better than that.

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Next, we just need to buy suck/drool pads because that sweet boy is a drool monster who likes chewing on anything he can get his little mouth on, but I wouldn’t change having him next to me for the world.

 

 

 

Weird Valentine’s, Still Endless Love

This Valentine’s was one of the weirdest holidays I’ve ever experienced. Isaac and I had been fighting the days before Valentine’s. I was back and forth on whether or not I would spend my Valentine’s day single or in a relationship.

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I do feel pretty blessed knowing that he loves me and that he wanted to surprise me with sweet Valentine’s gifts. I don’t know what I would do without my sweet boys. Hopefully Isaac and I can sneak away for a meal out of something.

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But anyways, Jayce was the sweetest date a Momma could ask for. We bought him two super cute outfits for him. I don’t know what I’d do without having him to kiss and love on every day.

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I even kissed him with red lipstick because I couldn’t resist bragging about my win for a Valentine’s date, as well as a win with him being the sweetest baby boy I could have ever imagined.

 

 

My Baby Is FIVE Months Old

Jayce,

You are now five months old. You LOVE kisses, TV, pulling hair, and being the center of attention. You HATE tummy time and taking naps alone. You’re sweet, smart, and sassy. You are constantly smiling, and just want mommy to play with you.

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You are absolutely amazing in every way possible. I thank God every single day that I have you. Today you even wanted to cuddle me for a little while. Even though I had dishes, school, and about a thousand others things to do, I sat my butt down on the couch and stared at you while you laid you head on my chest.DSCN1117

 

You’re even rolling over now. Daddy and I were talking about how we’re worried that you haven’t rolled, but you showed us that there’s nothing to worry about. It makes me so happy and so sad to see you grow. You become more and more like the sweet human I know you will be, but I know soon you will be too cool to kiss me. Soon you won’t love and need me like you do now.

 

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Jayce, thanks for still staring at me like I’m the most important person in your life, even when I’m stressed out. I promise I will look at you the same way now as I will at 5, 15, and 50 years because you will always be my sweet baby boy. I love you Jayce Braxton.

 

 

An Open Letter to the Friends Who Left Me When I Became a Mom

Dear Friends Who Left Me When I Became a Mom,

I have learned so much since becoming a mom, and the biggest thing I’ve had to deal with was the lack of friends. You all left me, and a part of me understands. The other part of me is really mad at you for doing that to me.

If the roles were reversed, I would’ve made more of an effort than you ever did. I don’t think a “Hey, how are you doing?” text is too much to ask, or at very least you could text me some excuse as to why you’re not coming over, instead of ditching our plans without any explanation whatsoever. Having a child has not made me incapable of being a fun person. There are so many things we could still do, but you don’t even invite me.

But back to the part I do understand…I get it. You don’t want to spend your free time with a crying baby when you could spend your time baby free. You don’t want to make the effort for a “friend” that you have nothing in common with. I’m obsessed with the best diaper brand, my new Ergo carrier, and good deals on baby clothes. You’re obsessed with bonfires surrounded by free beer and “hot” boys.

But someday, when you have children of your own, I think you’ll look back and regret this. I think you’ll wish you would have been there for me when I needed you. Someday when you’re so stressed out because your 5 month old won’t stop crying and you don’t know what to do, I hope you think of me. I felt exactly how you do, I just experienced it a little early.

So I will end it with this: thank you. Thank you for ditching me. Thank you for forgetting I existed. Thank you for those awkward moments of silent when you actually did show up. Mostly, thank you for leaving because with having no one, you’ve given me that little extra push to go make better friends, one who can talk for hours about their baby, ones who keep their plans with me, ones who want me in their life.

Sincerely,

Your Friend With A Baby

 

The Reality of Being a Teen Mom

Hello, my name is Autumn. I’m 17 years old, and I have a 4 month old son.

The reality is that some young girls really want to be a teen mom. They watch Teen Mom and that show doesn’t really reflect how terrible it can be when you have a baby so young. The reality is that a lot changes, you have to grow up a ton, and things are never how they used to be.

Most guys don’t stay. Getting a girl pregnant is not the same as an engagement ring. In general, making relationships work is pretty difficult, but you throw in arguments about money and child raising, and it’s is 10x more challenging to stay together. The worst part is that a lot of guys simply don’t want to stay. They’re not ready to be a dad, and they don’t want to give up their dreams for YOU or for that CHILD, even if you and that child deserve it.

Next, babies cost a lot of money! I was very blessed to be on good insurance through my mom when I found out I was pregnant, but my son only stays on that insurance until I’m 18, so when that time comes..I don’t have a choice but to find a job that offers health insurance. That’s just medical bills, add up beds, clothes, diapers, wipes, and toys, and your jaw will drop at the cost.

Education is affected my having a baby or being pregnant. You have to leave school for prenatal appointments, and if you have your child during the school years..that’s about six weeks (or more) of school you have to make up. After having Jayce, I turned to online school, but it’s so hard to get anything done during the day. I usually spend hours doing school after he goes to bed or before he wakes up.

I think what people don’t realize is how greatly teen pregnancy emotionally affects people. When I first started showing at school, people were pretty mean. I was told “My life is going to be so hard” and “You probably won’t graduate” and I was told I was stupid. In addition, I had to really get up my courage to even go to school and face everyone. The girl with the baby in the uterus is not the only one emotionally affected..her family, friends, and the father of the baby have to deal with coping to all of these great changes.

As I am pro-life, this is my encouragement to girls to focus on being a teenager and avoid pregnancy in the first place. Many resources offer FREE contraceptives, and I think it’s a great idea to use those forms of contraceptives.

Something to keep in mind is that if you find yourself in a situation where you are pregnant, I promise that you can do it..no it won’t be easy, but it is possible. Keep your chin up and always keep your baby boy/girl in the back of your mind in everything you do. Babies are an amazing motivator.